Post Settlement Mediation in Madison, WI
It is not uncommon for a divorced pair to reach an impasse on issues regarding children or finances even many long years after the divorce. It often happens that residual feelings of resentment and anger dating back to the marriage or the divorce itself are still at play in the difficulty around making compromises and coming to agreements. Madison divorce judges often require couples go to post-settlement mediation for these disputes, rather than using the legal system.
There are many advantages to using mediation over the legal process; these include cost savings, privacy, retaining control, and the possibility you still may be able to improve your relationship with your children’s other parent enough for you to function cooperatively — a possibility of immeasurable benefit to you and your children.
Dr. Eugster is a certified mediator, and uses a facilitative approach. Both parties agree to a certain number of meetings and expectations about behavior at those meetings, and Dr. Eugster works with you to identify the underlying objectives and values that inform your disagreements. Once these foundations are clarified, it is almost always possible to address those concerns to everyone’s satisfaction and find an agreeable compromise. The power of stepping away from positional thinking to focus on common interests cannot be overstated. The fact that the childrens' well-being is always the first priority offers a starting place where interests align. Understanding where and why they depart fosters a deeper awareness of your own and your ex’s assumptions, misapprehensions, and concerns. This process can be empowering and healing, as it encourages each person to be his or her best self and move forward into effective communication and compromise. Again, strengthening and improving the relationship during post settlement mediation offers a powerful and positive message to the children about how to effectively and humanely navigate strongly held differences.
If you'd like to set up an appointment or discuss your situation, please contact Dr. Sandra Eugster at your earliest convenience.