Explore Alternative, Low-Conflict divorce Options in a group setting

Divorce is not rocket science. Decisions have to be made about the placement and custody of children, if there are any, and the division of property, investments, and all other financial assets. What makes divorce difficult and complicated is all the emotions involved. Rage, grief, fear, jealousy, hurt feelings, and disappointment are usually all in the mix. It is extraordinarily hard to sit with a person with all those feelings in the space between you, and make fair-minded decisions that inevitably require you to give up things precious to you — be it time with your children, or a beloved home.

For this reason, couples heading toward divorce are very vulnerable and often fall into a process that takes them over, usually with consequences and results they never wanted in the first place, including a very large bill.  The way you approach and enact your divorce will have profound and lasting impact on you, your partner, and your children, emotionally and financially. We urge you to take a deep breath and slow things down until you can chose a process that will work for you. Be clear; any reasonable decisions the two of you can reach are usually approved by the court. Decisions will be reached one way or another, the question is whether these are decisions chosen by you or ones imposed upon you.

At Westside Psychotherapy, we offer monthly information sessions to help you move toward a decision about what kind of divorce is right for you. In Wisconsin, there are four models of divorce:

1. Pro Se Divorce

This is the DIY divorce. You download forms from the state website, fill them out, and have an attorney review them for accuracy.

2. Mediation

Mediation uses a neutral, trained, third-party to facilitate your reaching decisions together in a series of meetings

3. Collaborative Divorce

Collaborative divorce involves hiring a team of professionals who work together to develop workable solutions for you. Each party has his or her own attorney and coach; the couple uses one financial neutral and one child specialist.

4. Litigation

You each hire an attorney to represent you separately, and you go to court.