As I ease away from offering therapy myself, I am dazzled by the bright eyed, young clinicians coming into practice, brimming with their brilliant array of shiny, “evidence based” techniques and specialties. Their talk of, EMDR, DBT, TF-CBT, Hakomi, NLP, EFT, MBCT, MI, with all the power of acronym, is impressive, and intimidating.Read More
I went for a run in the arboretum, trying to shake the sadness about my daughter not coming home for Thanksgiving that has been shadowing me. Instead of which, I started ruminating about all the choices I have made in life that resulted in this eventuality. Entirely ignoring that her opting to spend the holiday with her partner is the natural order of things, that she lives on the other side of the country and the airfare for a weekend is absurd, that I’ll see her in a month, every pounding step was an accusation, recrimination, castigation. Suddenly I could see in full array, every mis-step, wrong headedness, and failure, and knew with absolute clarity that I have completely blown it.
I say we do best to believe the point of life is to live it as well as we can, to attend to our quality of experience while here. Not in the hedonistic sense of heedless pleasure, but in the steady effort to do our best, be our best, one conscious moment at a time.Read More